Saturday, 10 October 2015

Capacity blocker: technology

I'm going to be upfront from the start and admit that I have been dreading writing this post. Mostly because I really don't want to take the honest look at myself and how little I have progressed in allowing God to remove this blocker from my life. A little over a year ago during last year's Write 31 Days challenge, I wrote a post called "Confessions of a phone addict". By the interest it generated, I guess there are others out there who relate to this. A year on and I am still struggling with this. If anything, it's gotten more complicated as other technologies have been added in for me, like Netflix. The ridiculousness that I was procrastinating writing this post by watching Netflix is not lost on me. 

One of the biggest time drains and blockers to being open to hearing God throughout my day is my technology use. My capacity to do other things is severely diminished when I indulge in this addiction. I can use all sorts of justifications and excuses. The truth is that I often sense God's prompting to switch off and I resist. I flat out disobey. Then I beat myself up over it, determine to do better the next day, pray and then make the same choices. This may not always be true but far more often than I want to be the case. 

In being open with my downfalls, I do also need to acknowledge steps I have taken. I can honestly say that in general I am more intentional about reducing phone time when I am around my daughter (some days more successfully than others but still!) I am choosing to put on something that builds me up and inspires me like podcasts or an audiobook more often. This can still be an issue in itself but at least it is feeding me rather than filling my head with more junk.

Acknowledging how detrimental my level of technology use is may not be the issue for me anymore. The wrestle in myself on how to deal with this is an ongoing daily struggle. I don't think the answer is to cut it all out entirely. There are many benefits that technology, social media, my phone and even Netflix bring. So what is the answer? More prayer? Accountability? Some sort of routine or schedule? I'm not really sure. I do know that I am incapable of doing it alone. God needs to do the internal transformation work to allow this to happen. I need other people around me to help too. 

One of the practical, my obedience things that I have been trying is to do two chores/housework tasks each day without having something playing on a device or headphones in my ears. When did I start needing that background noise on all the time? When did I get so uncomfortable in my own presence? There have been times when I've been asked what I think about something and not had a clue as I hadn't given myself any space to process and think on it.

Another strategy that I've used in the past but have let slip is accountability. Maybe this needs to be implemented again! Having another person able to see exactly how much of your day has been spent binge watching or on social media is a good motivator for me, at least in the short term. I will have to give that more thought as to how and who!

I am trying to implement some house rules to support as well. One is no phones at the table if anyone else is eating with you. My husband and I often have to remind each other of this rule. I have seen some incredible ideas of phone boxes that they have to go into for a few hours each evening and other similar strategies. I haven't been brave enough to go there yet. It would obviously affect my husband too so some hard conversations would be needed first!

We have recently returned from a 10 day camping trip where we had no reception. I loved being unplugged and hoped to continue when home but it didn't last long. Some practical choices are needed but I also need to keep working it through with God. Another work in progress for me!

How have you managed your technology use? I'd love some ideas.

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  1. I love your honesty!!!!! The hubs and I use to have a rule that we wouldn't have our phones at the table during dinners at home but we have gotten away from that a little. I do try to limit looking at my phone for text messages when out with friends - especially during meals. Netflix isn't my weakness - mine would be Facebook and Periscope. However, I am trying to figure out how much is more than enough. It has to be different for each of us right? We don't have children so no littles are watching me and I engage with a lot of people, almost daily, via the phone or FT, so I don't believe my relationships are suffering. However, I have no doubt that time with God is suffering for sure. I do feel like I naturally turn off the noise while getting ready for the day; or while cleaning; or during my QT - my brain can't take it so I don't mind turning things off. Great food for thought for sure!!!

    1. It is definitely different for all of us and even in different seasons. I hope you are able to figure it out with God soon. Thanks for stopping by.

  2. This is so hard for both my husband and myself. I have to be intentional about putting it on silent. Somedays I even delete some of my apps just to keep me focused on the here and now. I loose so much time on social media. I am in the same boat. Thanks for being honest.

    1. Thanks for stopping by. I have also deleted some apps to help. I've also installed a usage monitor app which is a wake up call often.